If you’ve got your eyes set on a Scorpio man and want to know what it’s like to date him you’re in the right place.
There are some definite things you can expect when in a relationship with a Scorpio male.
Although he may not be the easiest for you to understand or get along with, it’s very possible to have an amazing relationship with him.
You should also know that one Scorpio man can be different in their relationship than another based on their experience in past relationships they had.
With that aside let’s look at some of the most common traits of a Scorpio male in relationships.
25 Scorpio male traits in relationships
He loves very deeply
Let me tell you something, there aren’t many men out there who can love as deeply as a Scorpio man.
He feels his emotions very deeply which can be a good and bad thing.
It’s good because he will love you with every ounce of his being and would do anything for you.
The downside is that when he’s hurt, he feels it very deeply as well and it may take him a long time to heal from breakups or arguments.
He wears his heart on his sleeve and he’ll love you with his everything. If he’s in it, he’s all in.
He can be very intense and passionate
Oh, he enjoys expressing his passion and intensity in his relationships.
You will probably never find a man who is more passionate than a Scorpio. He’ll want to try new things with you and push boundaries.
He gets very excited about the things he’s interested in and can be very intense when talking about them.
This trait also goes hand in hand with his jealous nature (we’ll get to that later).
He’s secretive and mysterious
This man is full of secrets. He’s the type who will probably never tell you everything about himself.
You’ll always feel like there’s more to him than meets the eye.
And that’s because there is. A Scorpio male enjoys being a little bit mysterious. It’s part of his charm.
He likes to keep people guessing and is always full of surprises.
He is very possessive of those he loves
The Scorpio man is like an investor. When he gives his love to anyone, he wants to know that they belong to him.
He wants to feel like the only man in your life so he can become very possessive of you in his relationship.
He can get jealous easily if he feels like he’s not getting enough attention from you.
If you’re dating him try not to flirt with other guys in front of him or talk about your ex too much, it might make him jealous.
Which may cause him to become more possessive.
He likes to have deep conversations
Do you like talking about deep topics? If you do he’ll love you for it.
The Scorpio male likes to have conversations that make him think. He’s not interested in small talk or idle chit-chat.
He wants to discuss things that matter to him on a deeper level.
So, if you’re dating him, be prepared for some serious conversations.
And maybe try to get him to gossip a little if you like to gossip. He might enjoy it sometimes, but not so much.
The point here is to get him to not always be so serious about life. I should know.
He may need time alone
This is big for him. When in a relationship a Scorpio man may feel drained and needs his batteries recharged.
In relationships, he may retreat into his shell from time to time and you should give him the space he needs.
It’s not personal, he just needs some time to himself and it’s one of the best thing that he can do for both of you.
He doesn’t easily open up about his feelings
This man is afraid of being hurt and he thinks that the less he tells you the safer he feels.
It’s not that he doesn’t have feelings for you, he just finds it hard to express them.
He may need some time to open.
Some of the ways that you can help him are to reassure him through words and your actions that you’re with him no matter what the circumstance.
Let him know that you’re not here to hurt him and that you’re looking to build a relationship that allows both of you to be better friends.
better friends = more trust = better lovers = a great relationship experience.
He doesn’t trust others easily
When you’re too easily trusting you get hurt and used. That’s how the Scorpio man feels.
He’ll be cautious with whom he gives his trust, especially if he’s been hurt before and doesn’t want to go through that again.
He’s not trying to be difficult, he just wants to be sure that you’re worthy of his trust.
If you want to earn the Scorpio man’s trust, be patient and don’t try to push him.
It’ll happen when he’s good and ready and not a moment sooner.
In the meantime try showing him support and focus on building a healthy relationship, the trust will follow.
He can be very loyal in a committed relationship
If you’re looking for loyalty the Scorpio man has been stacking it like non-perishables since the day he was born.
And he’s got it all waiting for you if you can get him to commit to you.
But that’s the trick with dating a Scorpio male, commitment is not easy for him, because of trust issues.
But if you can get him to trust you and become loving, exclusive, and emotionally attached to you, he can be very loyal.
He can be emotional and empathize with others
He often has a deep understanding of human emotion and can be very compassionate towards others.
This means that he’s usually able to tell what you need from him in a relationship without telling him.
He can also be very emotional himself and may need time to process his feelings before he can share them with you.
He can be a great listener
Every healthy conversation has a speaker and a listener.
And when you’re speaking you probably won’t have a problem with him listening to you.
The Scorpio male is a great listener, which makes him a great partner in conversation.
He’s interested in what you have to say and he’s not afraid to ask follow-up questions.
If you’re dating a Scorpio man, know that he’s probably one of the best listeners you’ll ever meet.
He is attracted to strong and independent women
He likes this kind of woman because she is confident in herself and doesn’t need anyone else to make her feel complete.
She’s also not afraid to take risks and is comfortable being in the spotlight.
If you want to attract a Scorpio man, be the kind of woman who is confident and comfortable in her own skin.
He likes a challenge in relationships
When you’re dating a Scorpio man he’ll want to keep things interesting.
He’ll want to try new things and he’s always up for a good challenge.
This can be a great thing because it keeps the relationship from getting boring.
However, it can also be a bad thing if he’s constantly challenging you and pushing you to do things that you’re not comfortable with.
But if he’s a gentleman he’ll hold your hand through things or take things down a notch to make you more comfortable.
That doesn’t mean that all Scorpio men will do this but some will if they’re really into you.
He may be guarded about his feelings
While dating he might be a bit guarded about his feelings but that’s because he doesn’t want to get hurt.
He’ll need reassurance from you that you won’t hurt him before he let his guard down.
But once the Scorpio man does, he’ll let you see a different layer of him as well as how much he cares for you.
He can be a great lover when he trusts you
A Scorpio man is a very passionate lover in his relationship.
He’ll want to try new things and experiment with different ways to please you.
And he’s not afraid to use his passion to help you experience different sensations.
However, all of this is contingent on him trusting you. If he doesn’t trust you then he won’t be able to let go and enjoy himself.
But if he does trust you then he can be one of the best lovers you’ve ever had.
It’s also possible to get this experience if you’re friends with benefits with him, even though you might still be missing a true and deep connection.
He can be stubborn at times
In relationships sometimes a Scorpio man can be stuck in his ways and be very stubborn.
It’s important to remember that this is just a trait and it doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person.
It just means that you might have to work a little harder to get him to see things your way.
If you’re dating a Scorpio man and you’re having trouble getting him to see things your way, don’t give up.
It’s worth it to try to work through it by finding better ways to communicate because the relationship can be very rewarding.
He can be very secretive
His tendency to be secretive is tied to being guarded of his feelings and fear of getting hurt.
If you’re dating a Scorpio man, know that he’s probably not going to share much about himself or the relationship with his friends.
But that also means there are things that he probably won’t share with you as well.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing. It just means that you have to be patient and understand that he needs time to open up.
And hopefully, he will open up to you eventually in a way that makes the relationship better.
He is very open-minded
In life and his relationships, the Scorpio man is like an explorer and he’s always looking forward to learning new things.
This means that he’s very open-minded and he’s willing to try new things.
It also means that he’s not afraid of change and he’s always looking for ways to improve.
And that’s one of the things you might find exciting about him.
He’ll try to test you to prove your loyalty
When in a relationship a Scorpio man might try to play mind games or test you to see how loyal you are to him.
It’s not that he doesn’t trust you, but rather that he wants to make sure that you’re as loyal to him as he is to you.
So if he’s testing you, don’t take it personally. Just try to be understanding and show him that you’re loyal to him.
But if things start to become unhealthy in the relationship you might want to talk to him about boundaries and ways to deal with his insecurities.
He can be very analytical with your words
A Scorpio man will probably try to analyze everything you say to him.
It’s not that he doesn’t believe you, but rather that he wants to understand you and your words better.
But also be able to catch you in a lie if he finds that something doesn’t add up.
He’s probably going to want to have deep conversations with you about your thoughts and feelings.
And he’s going to want to know everything about you.
He can be very jealous sometimes
A Scorpio man likes to be in control in his relationship, and he doesn’t enjoy being vulnerable.
If he’s constantly worried about being hurt or betrayed he may become protective and possessive of you.
This can sometimes manifest itself as jealousy.
It’s important to try to understand where this jealousy is coming from and try to help him work through it.
But if the jealousy becomes too much, it might be time to have a conversation about it and set boundaries with him about this kind of behavior.
He respects your boundaries
The Scorpio man is usually very understanding of your need for boundaries in the relationship and he’ll respect you for letting him know what you will and won’t tolerate.
But he might also try to push your boundaries to see how far he can go.
It’s important to be firm with him and let him know when he’s crossing a line.
He’s very intuitive
He can be very intuitive and may be able to understand what you’re not saying.
He may also try to sense when and if you’re hiding something from him.
But that doesn’t mean that he always knows what’s going on with you.
It just means that he’s very in tune with your emotions and he’s always trying to understand you better.
He loves a good debate or discussion
Be prepared to defend your opinions when you’re dating a Scorpio man.
He loves a good discussion, and he’s not afraid to voice his own opinions.
But he’s also open to hearing other people’s opinions and he might even change his mind if he’s convinced.
So don’t be afraid to share your own thoughts with him about different topics.
He’ll want to know everything about you
When a Scorpio is interested in dating you he wants to know everything about you.
From your favorite color to how you are in relationships and your deepest darkest secrets.
He’s not afraid of getting to know the real you because that’s what he’s attracted to.
So don’t be afraid to share your thoughts and personality with him.
He loves to be in control
The Scorpio man is not necessarily an alpha male, but he does like to be in control.
By that I mean he most often doesn’t command social interactions, even though he gets a lot of sexual attention.
This means that he’s probably going to want to make most of the decisions in the relationship.
And he might even try to control you if he feels like he’s losing control of the situation.
So it’s important to be assertive with him and let him know when you’re not comfortable with his controlling behavior.
What determines how a Scorpio man will be in a relationship?
In short, one of the main things that determine how a Scorpio man will be in a relationship is his astrological sign.
Scorpio is a water sign, which means that its members can be very emotional and intuitive.
If you can handle the ups and downs that come with dating a water sign, then you’ll be just fine. Otherwise, you might want to steer clear of this passionate and intense creature.
But that doesn’t mean that all Scorpio males are like this in their relationship.
There are other things that could influence how a Scorpio man behaves in relationships.
Some of those things could be;
- Not having self-awareness
- Poor social and communication skills
- Family values and how they were raised
- How well they understand people
- Relationship goals that they have
- The version of them that you bring out
- The chemistry you have together
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but I intentionally didn’t add sex as one of the traits.
Not that it’s not one of the traits but because it’s so stereotyped that all Scorpio men are great sexual partners, something that is not always true.
I think that if you’re dating a Scorpio man you should know about all of his traits, both good and bad.
It’s important to be understanding and patient with him, but also know when to set boundaries.
One of the most important things to remember in the relationship is that communication is key.
You and he need to be able to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings, needs, and desires in order for the relationship to work.
Trust is also very important to a Scorpio man, so be sure to be loyal and honest with him.
But that doesn’t mean you should trust him blindly, you should let him earn your trust as well.
Overall, dating a Scorpio man can be a great experience and it can be even better if both of you manage to be great friends.