15 Reasons Why a Scorpio Man Becomes Distant After Intimacy

Intimacy can be great for strengthening bonds and feeling closer to your partner in a relationship.

Having trouble opening up and feeling connected is something many Scorpio men deal with so there is no surprise why he might become distant after intimacy and might not want to cuddle or feel connected to you.

Most of the reasons for this kind of behavior probably have a lot to do with him than it does about you.

When you read the reasons below you’ll see why.

1. He doesn’t want to show feelings

Some Scorpio men are not big fans when it comes to showing feelings.

This is because they want to be seen as tough, they want to be in control of their emotions and view showing feelings as a sign of weakness.

This is why he might seem distant after being intimate with you because he doesn’t want to show his feelings and get emotionally attached to you.

2. He feels insecure about his performance

Everybody talks about how being physical with a Scorpio man is great but what this really does is put pressure on Scorpio men to perform.

They may feel like they have to be the best and live up to this reputation.

If he doesn’t feel like he did a good job, he might start to distance himself from you, because of his insecurity in his abilities.

3. He doesn’t think it was great with you

It’s also possible that he was not impressed with how well things went with you.

Maybe he is a bit disappointed with how well you did and now he is trying to figure out what he wants to do next.

Again, this has more to do with him than it does with you but I just want you to understand one of his possible reason or thought here.

4. He’s just with you for the physical

Commitment comes hard for a Scorpio man who isn’t willing to trust you with his heart.

So if he thinks he can be physical with you without committing, he will try to do just that.

After being intimate with you, he might realize that he has got what he wanted and there isn’t anything else he needs to do until he needs something else from you.

5. He doesn’t want to catch feelings for you

One of the best ways he can avoid catching feelings for you is by being dismissive after intimacy.

Of course, this is not fair for you but he’s trying to do what he thinks is best for him.

He doesn’t want to get too attached and then have to deal with the pain of breaking up later.

This is one of the more cowardly reasons but it’s still a reason.

6. He is trying to figure out his feelings

It’s possible that he’s just going with the flow without thinking what his relationship with you means for him.

After being intimate, he might start to think about his feelings for you and what this means.

He’s trying to make sense of everything and that’s why he might need some time and space to figure things out.

That doesn’t mean he’ll figure it out though and that doesn’t mean he won’t be coming back trying to take care of his needs, without strings attached.

7. He’s overthinking what this means

It’s not uncommon for a Scorpio man to be lost in his thoughts.

No matter how great things were, he may be thinking about how better it could have been and what he could have done better.

A Scorpio man can sometimes have a hard time giving himself credit and needs to learn how to take small wins and keep it moving.

8. He starts to question the relationship

Maybe he’s contemplating what the relationship means to him and where he wants things to be going.

This can be a scary thing for him because he doesn’t want to get too attached only to be disappointed later on.

He might start to distance himself from you because he doesn’t want to get hurt.

This is a self-protection method that some Scorpio men use.

9. He feels like he’s not good enough for you

This is him being hard on himself again.

He might think that he’s not good enough for you and that’s why he starts to distance himself.

This is another form of insecurity that he needs to learn how to deal with.

He’s good enough for you and if he can’t see that, then maybe you’re not the one for him.

Scorpio men need to learn to love and not be so hard on themselves before they can truly love someone else.

Otherwise, they will probably keep pushing people away.

10. He is trying to understand his emotions

Scorpio men are not known for being in touch with their emotions but after being intimate, he might start to feel things he’s never felt before.

Maybe he’s trying to understand these emotions and what they mean for him.

This can be a confusing and scary time for him which is why he might need some time to himself.

11. He’s not sure if he can trust you

Trust does not come easily for the Scorpio man and if he doesn’t trust you he’ll seem distant after intimacy.

In fact, this is probably the number one reason why a Scorpio man might become distant, to begin with.

He might start to distance himself because he’s not sure if he can trust you with his heart.

This is something he needs to work on and if you can’t be patient to help him work through this stage, then maybe he’s not the one for you.

12. He doesn’t want to hurt you

It’s very possible that he cares about you and knows that he’s up to no good, so he shows this type of behavior so that you never get attached to him.

It sounds confusing but it’s actually a form of self-protection for himself to avoid the guilt of leading you on.

13. He’s scared of getting hurt himself

Maybe he has been hurt before in the past by someone else and this took him a long time to get over.

So by distancing himself he thinks that he’s actually preventing any emotional attachment and you from hurting him.

It’s a defense mechanism to protect his heart.

14. He’s not ready for a relationship

This is a common reason why many Scorpio men become distant after intimacy.

He might have had fun and enjoyed himself but he’s not ready for anything serious just yet.

He’s still trying to figure out his life and what he wants before he can commit to anything else.

But for now, he sees this as a friends with benefits type of relationship.

15. He’s just playing you

Even though a Scorpio man wants honesty from others that doesn’t mean that he is always honest with everyone.

He’ll play mind games when it suits him and if he’s just using you for his own gain then he might become distant after intimacy.

He might do this so that you never get too attached and he can continue to play you.

Can A Scorpio Man Be Distant But Still Loves You?

A Scorpio man can be distant but still be in love with you. He is an interesting mix of emotions, often appearing reserved and detached.

But beneath that cool exterior lies a passionate nature that craves deep connections.

Sometimes it’s not that he’s deliberately trying to avoid you, but rather his need to protect his emotions and remain mysterious can create that distance.

Even though some Scorpio men may pull away from time to time, their love remains genuine and deep – most of the time.

So, if your Scorpio partner is acting distant, don’t assume the worst.

Just try to understand their complex nature and give them the space they need, knowing that at the end of the day, they still have sincere feelings for you.

But with all of that aside, if a Scorpio man truly loves you, he will make it known and you’ll feel the strength of his emotions in the moments you spend together.


I hope this gives you some insight into why a Scorpio man might become distant after being intimate with you.

There are probably other reasons to explain this type of behavior from a Scorpio man but the ones listed above are the most common.

Three of the most possible reasons why a Scorpio man might become distant with you after intimacy are;

It’s not always easy to understand a Scorpio man but hopefully, this has helped you see things from his perspective.

The most important thing is not to take it personally if a Scorpio man becomes distant after being intimate with you.

There could be any number of reasons why he’s behaving this way and it’s important not to jump to conclusions.

If you’re concerned about his behavior, the best thing to do is talk to him about it.

Talk with him about expectations for behaviors like this in the relationship and set boundaries so that he knows how much you’re willing to tolerate, especially if he won’t make an effort to improve things.

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