16 Things to do when a Scorpio man disappears

Most Scorpio men are not known to disappear in their relationships without providing a good reason and keeping you informed.

But if you have a Scorpio man that is always disappearing on you without a good reason, then it can be really helpful to know what to do.

That’s what I’ll help you with here.

Why does a Scorpio man disappear?

There can be many reasons why a Scorpio man disappears.

It could be that:

  • He’s not ready for a relationship with you
  • He’s living a double life
  • He’s busy with work or other commitments
  • He’s dealing with personal issues

There are probably more reasons but these are the main ones right now.

I conducted a survey where I ask 120 Scorpios if a Scorpio man has a good reason for disappearing the way he does at times.

Here are the results of that survey;

When a Scorpio Man Disappears It's Because of a Good Reason survey

This survey can also be used to prove that even Scorpios are not completely sure whether the reasons why Scorpio men disappear are all good ones.

16 Things you should do when a Scorpio man disappears

1. Don’t panic

If you’re with a Scorpio man who is always disappearing then coming back to you, it’s probably because he’s going through distant, withdrawn, and hot and cold phases.

If you’re in one of his hot phases, then he’s probably showering you with attention, love, and being sensual with you.

But if you’re in one of his cold phases, he’s probably distant and mysterious during this time.

2. Try reaching out to him

If your Scorpio man is always disappearing and coming back to you, it might be helpful to try reaching out to him during his cold phases.

It’s important to remember that Scorpio men need alone time, so don’t take it personally when he disappears, but it’s ok to set boundaries beforehand.

If you find that your Scorpio man is constantly disappearing and you’re always the one reaching out to him, it might be time to have a talk with him about your needs.

Scorpio men are often attracted to strong, independent women who can give them the space they need, so if you’re constantly needing his attention, it might turn him off.

But this doesn’t mean that you should allow him to completely ignore you when he’s going through one of his distant phases.

When he comes back you should try having a conversation about your expectations and better ways he can communicate with you when he needs space.

You should also take about a better way that he can deal with his need to disappear from the relationship because it could hurt the relationship long term.

3. If he doesn’t respond, don’t take it personally

Scorpio men need their space sometimes, and there’s probably a good chance that he’s not ignoring you on purpose.

Just because he doesn’t respond to your messages or calls doesn’t mean that he’s not interested in you anymore or he’s hiding something.

Even though it could mean that he is, you’re giving him the benefit of the doubt here. Just once.

Scorpio men are often very independent, so if he’s not responding it might just mean that he needs some time to himself.

And even if that is the case he has a lot of explaining to do when he shows up.

4. Give him space and time to sort things out

It’s important to give a Scorpio man space and time when he disappears. He may be feeling overwhelmed or stressed and needs time to figure things out.

And if you try to push him or pressure him, it could make things worse.

I agree that it’s not healthy to disappear from a relationship but at this stage, you’re working with what you have.

He’s not there and the last thing you want to do is to create a situation that gives him any reason to blame you for not returning.

When he finally comes back, if he does you can start talking about how he’s going to deal with his need to disappear and set boundaries for the relationship.

5. Allow him to come back on his own

If a Scorpio man wants to come back, he will. It’s important to allow him to make the decision to come back willingly. If you try to force him to come back, it could push him away.

If he really loves and cares for you then you shouldn’t have to persuade him to come back and make your relationship a priority.

But you should show him that you want to be understanding and supportive and you’re willing to talk about what’s really going on with him.

6. Don’t try to track him down

If your Scorpio man has disappeared, don’t try to track him down. It will probably make him angry and push him away even more.

I know the first instinct is to think that he might be a cheat, which he may be.

And maybe you want to know where he is, but he’ll probably be upset when he realizes that you were spying on him.

Even though he kind of didn’t give you a choice.

If your Scorpio man has never disappeared on you before, then I’m saying this to tell you to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Other times, definitely raises red flags.

7. Try not to take any drastic measures

When a Scorpio man disappears on you don’t do anything or make any decisions that might hurt you in the long run.

Don’t destroy any of his belongings or start finding things to make mischief of.

You may end up regretting it later when he comes back and you’re left feeling foolish.

I know it’s tempting to want to get revenge or make him feel as hurt as he’s made you feel.

But try to resist the urge and take the high road. It will probably be more satisfying in the end.

8. Move on if he doesn’t come back

If a Scorpio man disappears and doesn’t come back after a reasonable amount of time, then it might be time to move on.

I know it’s hard to let go, especially if you love him but at some point, you have to accept that he’s not coming back.

It might be hard to do but it’s important to remember that you deserve someone who will love and respect you and not disappear without a trace.

His loss, your gain. You’re probably saved from more heartache and pain further down the road.

9. Trust that everything will work out in the end

I know it’s hard to trust that everything will work out in the end when your Scorpio man has disappeared but try to have faith.

There’s a reason for everything that happens in life and even though this might not feel like it right now, everything will work out the way it’s supposed to.

Maybe this is just a test for your relationship and if you can get through this, it will make your bond stronger.

Or maybe this is a sign that it’s time to move on.

Either way, trust that God and the universe have a plan and everything will work out in the end.

10. Focus on taking care of yourself during this time

If you were so focused on your Scorpio man and forgot yourself then now that he has disappeared on you it’s time to focus on taking care of yourself.

Do things that make you happy and spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.

This is a time for you to heal and learn to love yourself again.

And when you do, the right man will come into your life. One who won’t disappear without a trace but will love and cherish you for the rest of your life.

So take this time to heal and focus on taking care of yourself. Everything will work out in the end.

11. Make sure to stay busy and occupied

The fact that the Scorpio disappears on you is probably a sign he doesn’t respect you enough.

So make sure to stay busy and occupied during this time.

If you’re constantly moping around and wallowing in self-pity, it will only make things worse.

Do things that make you happy and keep yourself busy. This way, you won’t have time to think about your Scorpio man and what he’s doing.

Focus on taking care of yourself and your own happiness.

12. Reach out to your friends and family for support

When a Scorpio man disappears, it can be difficult to know what to do.

One of the best things you can do is reach out to your friends and family for support. They may be able to provide some insight into what you should do.

Sometimes others are able to provide us with the kind of support that we never thought we deserved ourselves.

If you have a very supportive and understanding family talk with them and let them help you heal and find the best course of action to move forward.

13. Talk to a therapist if you’re feeling really lost and confused

If you’re feeling really lost and confused after your Scorpio man disappears, then it might be a good idea to talk to a therapist.

They can help you work through your feelings and figure out what to do next.

If you’re struggling to cope with the situation, then talking to a therapist might be the best thing for you.

There is no judgment in doing this and sometimes is better for us if we try not to solve all of our problems alone.

Because sometimes we don’t know what the solution should be.

Never be afraid of asking for help.

14. Don’t take him back without open communication

Never take back a Scorpio man after he disappears on you unless he explains why he disappeared.

Don’t start acting as if nothing happened.

If he has a good reason for disappearing, such as being busy with work or taking care of a sick family member, then you can consider taking him back.

If he just up and left without any explanation, you probably want to start thinking about your place in his life.

And it’s probably best to move on.

If he’s not willing to be serious, considerate, respectful of you, and prioritize your relationship with him, with effort then he’s probably not worth your time.

But that’s for you to decide.

15. Set boundaries about this next time you see him

If the Scorpio man disappears on you, make sure to set boundaries when he returns.

Maybe he didn’t know before he left, but this time you’ll have a discussion about this sort of behavior.

Tell him that you need to be treated with respect and that you won’t tolerate being ignored.

If he doesn’t want to listen or tries to gaslight you again, it’s now up to you to decide what you’ll do.

16. Don’t make excuses for him

If a Scorpio man disappeared on you without any explanation or attempt to let you know anything there’s probably a good reason why.

But it’s not your job to come up with any of those reasons. That means that you shouldn’t be making any excuses for him

And making excuses for him could make things worse for you.

You deserve better than that.

So don’t try to rationalize his behavior or make excuses for him.

It’s his job to explain to you what happened.

Let him do that and listen.

Scorpio man says I love you then disappears

A Scorpio man can be very guarded and secretive with his feelings.

If a Scorpio man says “I love you,” it could mean that he truly believes it with every fiber of his being.

But if he then disappears after saying it, it’s likely because he’s afraid of getting hurt.

He may need some time to think about his feelings and figure out what he wants before he’s ready to commit to a relationship.

In the meantime, try not to take his disappearing act personally. Just give him the space he needs and be patient. He’ll come back when he’s ready.

However, there are times when a Scorpio man might say “I love you” and then disappear because he doesn’t actually mean it.

This could be because he thinks that’s what you want to here and he’s trying to string you along.

Look for red flags and signs he might be lying to you.

In this case, it’s best to move on and find someone who is capable of being honest with you about their feelings.

You deserve better than that.


If you’re in a relationship with a Scorpio man and he disappears, it’s important to try to communicate with him to see what’s going on.

If he doesn’t want to talk about it, it’s possible that he’s not ready to deal with the issue.

In this case, it might be best to give him some space and wait for him to come to you.

This doesn’t mean that you allow him to do as he pleases with you. The relationship that you have with your Scorpio man should benefit both of you.

If he’s not willing to talk about what happened, you might want to consider moving on.

What’s most important is that you take care of yourself and don’t make excuses for him.

A Scorpio man will treat you however you think you deserve, so he’ll never really change unless you put your foot down and challenge him to change.

Set boundaries about this sort of behavior if he does come back. You shouldn’t have to put up with being ignored or treated disrespectfully.

If he’s not willing to listen to you and change his behavior, then it might be time to consider ending the relationship.

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